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It saddens me when I talk about hitchhikers, and I again hear how dangerous it is. It doesn’t matter if I am talking with a mousy woman ( no offense to those reading ) or with an exceedingly muscular male. It seems strange that culturally we are so afraid of strangers, even those who could use some assisting.
Who are the people hitchhiking, really? They are no different than you or I. We all have our stories to tell, full of ups and downs. To name a few, I have picked up runaways with mohawks, a freshly quit of college tree hugger who personally didn’t believe in bathing often, and a young fellow just returning to the states after doing a three month work exchange program on a sheep ranch in New Guinea. My criteria is simple. If they are actively headed to some destination, and are willing to get there even if it means they have to walk the whole distance, then they are good in my book. Those just looking for a handout ride as if society must give it to them, I drive right on by.
I have never had any problem with anyone in my vehicle. My longest hitch was the tree hugger (with the windows down!), and I took him across an entire state. I hear no profanity, and even am asked politely if I mind them smoking. These people know the deed you do for them, and treat you with the utmost respect. Such a small thing means so much to these people.
Have you even walked between towns, whether needed or not? How few people stop to proffer the ride. They seem to think that I am dangerous on foot. Nothing could be farther from the truth, as I endeavor to live by the non-aggression principle. I suppose that makes my mind a dangerous thing to people who don’t want to believe there are feeling beings outside of their comfort zone.
Perhaps that’s what makes me different. We all have our comfort zones, and I find myself always trying to think outside of that box. This has resulted in the remaking of myself a few times. The other ‘problem’ of outside thinking is that I care little what others think of me. I can go contrary to all flows of traffic. I enjoy standing in a thunderstorm, thinking “Do your worst!” I enjoy looking over the abyss and feeling the greatest sadness, full in the knowledge, that I too will survive this.
But, it isn’t really out-of-box thinking that makes me pick up hitchhikers. It is my sense of fairness to all men. People really are not as evil as they are portrayed to be. They might be morally immature, but that is not reason to leave another in the curb-side rain. This good feeling towards mankind isn’t new. We have been there before. We as americans were like this but a few generations ago. We know this, as the stereo-typical person who will pick up a hitcher is either a truck driver or an old farmer familiar in the old ways of society.
However, “fear is the mind-killer” (Frank Herbert). People have been raised to be afraid of walking in the dark, of strangers in strange places, and of the strange thoughts of others. It divides us as a people, and makes us want to drift into the abyss of a televised couch.
Wake up! Feel the stems and petals! Prick your fingers on the thorns! And, yes, smell the roses! Life is one grand experience after another if one but choose to look at it another way. Even in the darkest hour, there is yet something good to experience, if even it is just knowing “This too shall pass.”
Very good post; very well written.
Yes, there is a lot of fear in people concerning hitchhikers. Hollywood feeds into this: movies usually portray hitchhikers as robbers and killers. The media usually focus on bad news–if a hitchhiker kills somebody, it is big headlines across the nation; nobody hears about the 99 % of hitchhikers who are just trying to get to the next town or to the next state who are completely harmless.
There is a good hitchhiking website: Digihitch.com. You may want to check it out sometime.
Here is a good hitchhiking story:
“A Bill Gates Hitchhiking Story”
http://tim-shey.blogspot.com/2011/01/bill-gates-hitchhiking-story.html
I wonder how many times people consider the risk that the hitchiker is taking. I had one guy, as he put out his cigarette in his hand, tell me that he once had a driver begin to sob uncontrollably after going a few miles down the road. When the hitchiker asked him what was wrong, the driver said he was trying to decide whether to listen to the voices telling him to kill the hitchiker.
Wow! That’s pretty incredible.
One time I was hitchhiking and this guy picked me up. He told me that he read in The New York Times that it is five times more likely for a hitchhiker to get killed than the driver (The New York Times of all newspapers; for some reason I don’t of New York City as Hitchhiker Central).
I have been hitchhiking for most of 15 years and I have met a lot of great people on the road. Only one time did someone pull a knife on me–it turned out to be somewhat of a humorous incident:
“The Only Time Someone Pulled a Knife on Me”
http://tim-shey.blogspot.com/2010/08/only-time-someone-pulled-knife-on-me.html
“I enjoy standing in a thunderstorm, thinking “Do your worst!” I enjoy looking over the abyss and feeling the greatest sadness, full in the knowledge, that I too will survive this”
I can really relate to this. Standing on the side of the road with your thumb out is both having full control and relinquishing it. I know staring into the abyss sounds like a very drastic analogy for hitchiking but there is a ring of truth to it. This sort of humbling and yet enlightening feel that is so hard to obtain in the world.
sigh….its been a long time since i hitchiked. I am going to have to do it again
Sometimes I type up something and I skip a word. Correction: instead of “The New York Times of all newspapers; for some reason I don’t of New York City as Hitchhiker Central”, it should read “The New York Times of all newspapers; for some reason I don’t think of New York City as Hitchhiker Central.”
I had a book published in January of this year:
“The First Time I Rode a Freight Train & other hitchhiking stories”
http://tim-shey.blogspot.com/2012/02/new-book-first-time-i-rode-freight.html
Here is a very good post about traveling and hitchhiking in America.
“Roots”
http://relearningamerican.wordpress.com/2012/04/27/roots/#comment-48
To me the crux of the issue in the question of, “Is hitchhiking dangerous?”, is not the hitcher at all, but the basis of danger itself. When the truth is shown under the lights and close scrutiny is used, the nature of danger can be revealed into the reality where it belongs. It is dangerous to be alive. Why? Because all living things come to an end, that is, expire.
Staying at home in bed may well be comforting against the dangers of the hitchhiking world, but lightning resides,(potentially), there in your home. An earthquake opening up beneath your bed is as possible as a jet plane falling onto your house. Electrical and falling hazzards, floating gases and airborne disease are as likely to get you while at home as are venomous insects and reptiles. The truck running out of control into your house is as likely to get you as a meteorite, but just as possible.
My point now reveals itself that since we are alive and destined to be otherwise, is it more important to meet your transition in bed, at the table, in your car, or hitching on the side of the roads of the world? My personal answer to that where and when question is that it is destined by God and not by man and for reasons known only to my maker.
More deaths occur in the home than anywhere else, statistics says, so the nature of danger resides in being on this side of the pale at all, and will end at our passing. Where is the place more dangerous to life and living? Nowhere, except the place you expire. When is the most dangerous time? Only, and just before you expire.
Hitching isn’t any more dangerous than hang-gliding, driving, or staying at home in bed. Only the misperceptions of the control over events, ( which we really don’t posess at all), of time, place, method, duration, etc. exist to cloud the real issue that we simply don’t know what the future holds except a transition out of life, into the unknown next events. Lord knows, I don’t.
You’ve got a point Rex. Death can come to anyone, no matter how prepared they are. I don’t buy into the God and fate thing, but I fully realize that it is better to die while out living than while in laying. I’m not afraid to die, and while that isn’t a motivator, it is an enabling thought.
Thanks for the thoughtful comment Rex!
It seems like most people thrive on fear more than anything else. They complain about living in their man-made hole. They need to crawl out of their hole and take a risk and explore life for once. People are so brainwashed to be fearful, it makes me vomit.
Just like that guy said in “The Shawshank Redemption”: “Get busy living or get busy dying.”
Look at the life of Chris McCandless. Even though he died at the age of 24, he lived more in two years hitchhiking than most people do in a lifetime.
“Chris McCandless Revisited”
http://tim-shey.blogspot.com/2010/08/chris-mccandless-revisited.html
Tim, yes, most people live in fear over anything else. While it is a dangerous business going out one’s front door, I’d rather be out and about than stuck within a self-imposed prison. You are correct about the brainwashing into fear. Fear in the American people is about as think as flies on stink!
I LOVE that quote from “Shawshank Redemption” It is one of my favorite quotations.
Thanks again for the great comment, Tim.
Tim,I am a woman who picks up hitch hiker’s from time to time just because I feel most people need the rides and are not Serial Killing rapists trolling the roads looking for a victim.I am fully aware of the dangers, but my sense of humanity over rules my sound judgement maybe.But,what I wanted to tell you is that we recently moved to rural Indiana and was surprised that many people who live on these long rural roads and have no transportation for whatever reason naturally pick each other up walking up and down their long roads when they see each other walking,no need for a thumb out either.Even some of the Amish will pick up their neighbor’s who are not Amish and give them rides in their buggies.I am from a big city and was pleasantly surprised that this kind of thing is going strong in my new area.
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Seems that you followed an article of Tim Shey’s to my blog. Totally fine, of course.
I love how you say your sense of humanity overrules sound judgement. I would say that it is sound thinking to pick up a hitchhiker because of your humanity. Many have too often walked down the path of fear to help others in need of even such a little thing.
Thanks for visiting, and commenting. Living in rural Indiana myself, I find that it is easier to be picked up here than even big city Indiana (yeah we have a couple of those).
Just thought you would like to see this: “Wyoming Bill Would Legalize Hitchhiking” http://www.jhunderground.com/2012/11/26/wyoming-bill-would-legalize-hitchhiking/comment-page-1/#comment-91833
Thanks for the “thumbs up”, Tim. Followed, and duly commented.. 🙂 Hope things are well with you.
Have you heard about Kai the Hero Hitchhiker? You need to read this:
http://mashable.com/2013/02/06/kai-the-hitchhiker/
Thanks, Tim. I checked it out. People think that hitchhikers are dangerous, yet they are likely more capable of great deeds such as this. I like the description of homefree versus homeless, too. Thanks again.
Some good news from the great state of Wyoming:
“Hitchhiking Bill Passes”
http://www.jhunderground.com/2013/02/22/hitchhiking-bill-passes/
Aye, it is good news. It’s sad that one must pass laws making it legal to walk and be neighborly.